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Masturbation or self pleasuring is the self-stimulation of the genitals to achieve sexual arousal and pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm. It’s done alone  by touching, stroking or massaging the genitals in a way that feels good and often results in orgasm. It’s a safe and healthy outlet for sexual tension and lets people fantasize or daydream about situations they find sexually arousing.Mutual masturbation is when 2 people masturbate together at the same time.

Who Masturbates?

Almost everybody! Masturbation is a very common, even among people who have sexual partners. In one study, 95% of males and 89% of females said they’ve masturbated.*

Masturbation is the first sexual act that most people experience. It’s a normal part of a child's exploration of his or her body, and it helps teens explore and understand their bodies and learn what feels pleasurable to them. Many young people get to know and understand their sexual feelings through masturbation, and most people continue to masturbate throughout their adult years.

How Often is Normal?

At one time, masturbation was thought to be perverted and a sign of mental illness. Today it’s considered a normal, healthy sexual activity that’s enjoyable, satisfying, acceptable and safe. It is a good way to experience and explore sexual pleasure.  Many people continue to masturbate well into their adult years.

There’s no such thing as "too much" masturbation. Some people masturbate several times a day while others only a few times a year. Masturbation is only considered a problem when it impedes sexual activity with a partner, is done in public or causes distress to a person if he or she is doing it compulsively and it interferes with daily life.

Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation doesn’t have to be something you do only when you’re alone. Mutual masturbation means you and your partner stimulate each other's genitals at the same time. It’s a safer way to be intimate with a partner without having intercourse.

Masturbating with your partner can bring you closer to one another. Many people find watching their partner masturbating highly erotic.

Mutual masturbation is an important part of lovemaking. Get to know which techniques your partner likes and always be sure to treat his or her genitals with care and sensitivity..

Need Advice?

If you need more information or suggestions for exploring your feelings:

  • Talk to friends or a trusted adult whose opinions you respect.
  • Email or call Peel Public Health at 905-799-7700.
  • Visit one of our Healthy Sexuality clinics.

Source: * WebMD

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